5 Reasons Why I Bareback That I’m Not Ashamed Of

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Choosing to bareback doesn’t mean I’m a monster

By: Kevin in Florida

I’m just going to come right out and say it. I like to bareback. In other words, I prefer riding a guy who is not wearing a condom. You may think that is irresponsible – perhaps even stupid. But in order for me to write this article, I want to be completely honest.

In recent years, gay men who bareback have gotten a bad rap. There are probably a number of reasons for this, including societal taboos, ongoing homophobia and the aftermath of the HIV/AIDS epidemic.



But here is what I know. Most of the guys I hookup with are into raw sex too. And the vast majority of them don’t fit the stereotypes that spread around gaydom.

In fact, there’s some research to suggest that four in ten men ride other guys raw – and are taking loads in the process. I’m not saying that is right or wrong. But I am saying it happens and guys are doing it a lot more thank some might think.

What follows are 5 reasons why I bareback that I’m not ashamed of. Some of these may strike you as silly. Others might cause you to pause and think. I encourage you to read them all to fully absorb their deeper meaning.

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1. I like the way it feels

Some people don’t mind latex. I’m not one of them. There’s just something about a guy wearing a rubber that makes me go soft. Maybe I’ve got a sensitive butthole or something but condoms kill the experience for me. I know that’s note the case for all guys who bottom. I can only speak for myself.

Ever since I went on PREP in 2012, I’ve been riding guys latex free. Yes – I am aware that I am opening myself up to possible STI’s but I still prefer feeling the guy inside of me without a barrier.

And yes, I visit my doctor regular for different forms of testing. Knock on wood, I’ve never caught anything. But I’m also aware that it could happen.

2. I feel closer to the guy

Perhaps a shabby excuse but one that I’m going to throw out there. I’ve played the bottom role with men who are wrapped and those who are not. In every instance, I have found that I feel closer to my partner when the folks at Trojan aren’t present.

And let me tell you something. If you are a total bottom or a power bottom, you can absolutely tell when a guy has one on. Even though the inside of your rectum doesn’t have nerve endings, you still know.

3. More opportunity

Before PREP came out, most gay men were all about asking one another their HIV status. Now a-days, with the proliferation of PREP, it seems like nobody cares anymore. I’m not judging this or saying people should care more. It is what it is.

But here is what I know. When a hot guy messages me on Grindr and asks if I like it wrapped or raw, I automatically know that he wants to bareback. I’ve learned from experience that if you respond with “condoms only”, the guy will disappear.

Come on – you know that is totally, 100% true!

4. More honesty

Another thing I’ve discovered since going bareback is that the guys I hookup with are more open and honest about their situation. In other words, when you tell them you are on PREP and ride raw, they are more apt to respond with: I am too or I’m undetectable.

Compare that to the liars you meet on the hookup apps who play games and say crap like: I’m negative and play safe only but would top you BB.

I always think when I hear this: How many guys have you f*cked and unloaded into with this nonsense?! You know full well this same guy hasn’t been tested in years and has no earthly idea of his status.

At least guys who like to ride raw like me are honest. We don’t need to romanticize BB action like some people do.

5. I feel empowered

My final reason for preferring to bareback as a gay man is simply this. I feel more empowered. What do I mean by this? It’s pretty straight forward.

Related: Gay man breaks up with barebacking boyfriend because of PREP

By choosing to go unwrapped, I get to call the shots. You either want to top me without a rubber or you don’t. And if you are not into it, that’s fine by me. But at least I don’t have to deal with condom Nazis trying to force their will on me.

Final Thoughts

I’m not trying to advocate for bareback sex. But there are a lot of people who seem to wonder why so many guys do it condom-free. Just take a look at this Reddit thread.

At least now you have the unvarnished truth from someone who is telling it like it is.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

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