I’m Dreaming About a Gay Threesome with My Boyfriend and Ex: Dream Interpretation

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We get along great and I love him a lot. There’s no problem in the sex department. So far, it’s been amazing.

That’s why I’m a little confused out about this reoccurring dream.

It’s always the same: My boyfriend is topping me from behind while I’m doing oral on my ex standing in front of me.

And the freaky part is both of them making out like crazy the whole time.

Does this mean I want a threesome with them? Do I still have feelings for my ex?

Brent

Dr. John responds

It sounds like your reoccurring dream is intense. I’ll try to walk you through some of what may be going on, contextualized by symbolism.

Just reading what you shared, most all of the imagery relates to orifices. Specifically, we’re talking about the openings to your anus and your mouth.

And let’s not forget the orifices of your boyfriend and ex are also present. They were kissing too, correct?

In my experience, most dreams that involve oral activities are about communication. That you were using your mouth on your ex’s root suggests you may be trying to siphon an attribute from him.

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You never mentioned it, but I’m wondering how things ended? Did he break up with you or was it the other way around? Did the relationship terminate abruptly?

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It’s possible that you have unfinished business with your ex, which in dream symbolism often shows up through openings in the body. It might be helpful for you to reflect on the nature of your breakup and see what you come up with. Was anything left unsaid?

Let’s move on to some of the other things going on your dream.

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Your current boyfriend was inside of you while kissing your ex. To me, this represents a classic merge dynamic. In truth, there are probably traits from each guy that you find attractive.

Whenever a threesome dream happens, it metaphorically speaks to a desire to have the best of both worlds, combined into one person. Quite literally, you were absorbing both of these men’s essence through phallic delivery.

That your current partner and boyfriend were kissing suggests a hope for greater intimacy. While you said that the sex between you and your boyfriend was amazing, you never said if it was intimate.

When dreams contain deep kissing or making out, it’s the minds way of signaling a need for nurturing.

Something for you to reflect on is the closeness you shared with your ex. Did you have a strong emotional bond but for whatever reason, the sex was lacking?

On the flip side, is the relationship with your current partner more of a physical based as opposed to emotional?

Dreams involving someone behind us in the way that you described often symbolically means that individual is “driving the train” in the relationship.

If you agree with this, it might be helpful to ask yourself if your needs are being met?

Dream Material Examined

If you have this dream again, try to write down other things you were aware of. For example, how did you feel while your ex and boyfriend made out? Were you a willing or eager participant in the experience?

To your last question: Yes, it is possible there is a part of you who wants to experience your boyfriend and ex simultaneously. That’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Deeply held sexual fantasies often reveal themselves known through dreams.

Dr. John is a licensed psychotherapist and contributor to GPB. He specializes in men’s issues. Visit his profile to learn more.

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