The less you read about a relationship, the better it’s going
First, I want to say I think it’s important for gay men to celebrate their relationships in a public way. This means allowing ourselves to be pictured with our partners and from time to time, posting on social media.
There’s nothing wrong with this.
What’s more, the importance of public sharing is particularly necessary when a same sex couple marries or when something significant happens; like a vacation or family event.
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But that’s not what this post is about. Instead, I’m talking about gay men who think it’s incumbent upon themselves to document each and every moment with their partner.
Let me give you an example:
Not too long ago, a person I know hired a photographer to take pics of his proposal. That’s right, he paid $200.00 for a guy with a camera to memorialize the exact moment he got on bended knee to ask for his man’s hand in marriage.
Replete with rose petals and a candle lit path to boot, the whole thing was staged to look like it came out of a Hallmark Channel movie.
And of course, once the pictures were developed, he posted them on Facebook immediately. This is same guy who also takes random selfies of himself spooning, like his man was some kind of trophy.
But here’s the thing. They never got married. In fact, news of their breakup was just posted on social media (of course). Which goes to prove that just because you see a fairy tale romance online does not mean it’s happening in real life.
In their situation, both men were cheating on each other. Don’t ask me how I know this – I just do. And they had only been dating one another for six months. Kind of soon to get hitched, don’t you think?
Which makes me wonder why they put on such a big production in the first place? Were they trying to convince themselves they loved one another? Did they want onlookers to be envious?
Who knows. But here is what I have observed over the years.
Anytime you see a couple (gay or straight really) oversharing pictures on social media, alarm bells should be going off.
That’s because healthy relationships always speak for themselves. They don’t need photographic props or “convincers”.
These couples know that constantly showing your love to third parties cheapens what they have because when you have an audience, everything feels like a performance.
The real validation they receive doesn’t come from hundreds of “Likes” but instead, from each other.
By: John Hollywood