Homophobe Father Refused to Claim Dead Son’s Body from Orlando Massacre

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Refused Son’s Body Because He Was Gay

One of the most respectful things a family can do when a loved one dies is to claim the body of the deceased. Sadly, for one victim of the horrible tragedy that happened in Orlando, this would not be the case.

The reason? His father refused to claim the body because his son was gay.

Orlando Latino is reporting the story about the entire sorry situation. We were horrified at the blog to learn that a dad would not receive his own son’s remains because he was at a gay bar (Pulse Night Club).

Apparently, the father did not approve of his son’s homosexuality.

After much arm pulling, it appears that the young Puerto Rican’s family decided to claim the body. The deceased name is being kept private out of respect.

This is an important reminder to all of us in the LGBTQ community that identifying our sexual orientation remains difficult for many.

Below you will find an excerpt from the article. We would like to take the opportunity to editorially say the following to the father:

SHAME ON YOU! You disrespect the memory of your son and your entire family by not receiving your son’s body. You also dishonor all who died that night and the survivors.

Your son was gay. He was slaughtered through no fault of his own that terrible night at Pulse.

Years from now, when you have arrived at a different place emotionally, perhaps you will have different feelings about your child’s sexual orientation.

Related: 5 Harmful Lies About Orlando Killings that Need to Stop

The problem is that it will be too late – your hate ruined the last honor you could pay to him – and to his memory. You will have to now live with this for the rest of your days on earth.

What follows is the information from the article – and we warn you it is difficult read:

“We effectively and efficiently completed the identification, notification and autopsy process within a 72-hour period – a monumental task,” according to an earlier statement by OCME, which worked with the Florida Emergency Mortuary Operations Response System to complete the gruesome task.

But it was touch and go for one particular shooting victim whose father didn’t want to claim the body. Because the son was gay. Because the father was ashamed. Finally and after much convincing, the body was released to Orlando-area relatives.

This young man shall remain anonymous so as not to further victimize the deceased, who was Puerto Rican. But Orlando Latino confirmed the information with several sources. The tale is part of the untold stories of the Latino victims of the Pulse nightclub massacre.

The fact is, Puerto Ricans on the island are socially conservative and oftentimes anti-LGBT. While the U.S. Supreme Court declared that same-sex marriage was constitutional in June 2015, gay marriage didn’t reach Puerto Rico until April 2016 – 10 months after the highest court’s ruling – because a San Juan district court said the Supreme Court’s decision didn’t apply to Puerto Rico.

“The district court’s ruling errs in so many respects that it is hard to know where to begin,” wrote the U.S. First Circuit Court of Appeals in Boston in slapping down Puerto Rico’s claim.

But the local court didn’t “err” in reflecting the island’s social conservatism, an attitude it shares with many other Spanish-speaking countries.”

 




  • Bruce Brown

    Just goes to show that religion is a form of insanity.

    • liquidassets

      Extreme religion, yes. Which this guy didn’t even subscribe to consistently. He thought it was consistent to pledge allegiance to both ISIS and Hezbollah, lol. But extreme religion is, yes .Along with his extreme homophobia, racism. sexism, all parts of probable severe mood and personality disorders, etc. #ItsComplicated.

  • BruceTats

    If the kid had a gun he might have lived.

    • David Butler

      He WOULD have lived if the man spraying bullets DID NOT have a gun in the first place. Gun laws need to change in the USA.

    • liquidassets

      Yes; that goes for all 300 people in the bar. 300 guns, plus alcohol, what could ever go wrong? Guns should be a requirement for anyone entering a bar, school, hospital, theater, church, workplace, tattoo parlor, etc. Guns, guns, guns. Why can’t folks get that through their heads? The answer to all gun violence is so obvious. It’s working so well to prevent mass shootings in the USA!!

    • Brian Daugherty

      Yeah Bruce, because guns and alcohol are such a great paring!

    • Darth Zombie ✓ᵈᵃʳᵏˢᶦᵈᵉ

      And if he had wheels he might have been a skateboard.

  • liquidassets

    It’s even worse than that. I’ll accept that this father is likely grieving at some level. But by treating his own son as inhuman; he is a part of our collective inhumanity that influenced the lost and evil Mateen to act so inhumanely against himself and the 103 people he injured and murdered. So it’s not a stretch to say this father is in some part responsible for his own son’s death– far worse than not claiming his body. Though humanity is struggling to evolve, some folks still aren’t getting the memo, putting their ancient or distorted religion, their culture, or simply their own fear ,ahead of lives of the ones they claim to love. My message to them: Time is running out– please, please #StayHuman.

  • hudstar2011 .

    And when you are old and nearing your own passing … remember that you denied your son even in death. Remember that you failed yourself as a father and as a human being.

  • Darth Zombie ✓ᵈᵃʳᵏˢᶦᵈᵉ

    Some people allow their religion to transcend their humanity.

  • crazypieces

    About having a gay child. After they “come out”, they are the very same person that stood there minutes before that announcement. The only difference is that they are ever so much more happy.

    • Mel Burkhart

      bravo…

  • Marlayna

    Heartbroken… So much hate and ignorance in this world, even among family members. This simply verifies how many LGBTQ people are disowned by their families and the homeless rate is rising among this group. Just why does it matter who love who? #loveisloveisloveislove

  • Peter

    Did the asshole of a father “approve” of such things as the color of his son’s eyes, or the length of his nose, or the color of his hair? His son was born gay! What is to approve or disapprove? As for a person that happens to be gay having to “come out” when is the last person that happened to be born straight “come out” as such? To this day I have never seen a sports figure, politician or celebrity call a press conference to “come out straight.” Let’s all live our lives peacefully and harmoniously and love one another equally as brothers and sisters.

  • Me

    Parents often have lots of dreams for their children and gay is not usually included. We need to help these people understand that their children can still accomplish those dreams regardless of their sexual orientation. With Love from all of use, we will see more acceptance in the world.

    If I can share a story, My partner came out to his mother (father passed away years ago) and she should would not allow it or accept it. The good thing is that his sister came to his rescue. She protected him from all of the family members. One day, his sister had a son. He came out to her. She replied to him that she should not allow it or accept it. She also responded that she wanted grandchildren because it was her expectation of him. I asked why she would accept her brother but not her son. She could only respond that “She has dreams for her child and gay is not one of them.” : ( I pray for true love and acceptance for all of us.