5 Signs He’s Not Really Into You

Quick signs a guy doesn’t like you

Liking a guy and realizing he doesn’t like you back is one of the most difficult things to come to terms with. In fact, the experience of rejection can be humiliating – particularly when you begin to realize that the man of your dreams is just that – a dream.

When faced with that prospect, many of us choose the denial route; sticking our heads in the sand and deciding to over-emphasize counter-evidence to the idea that he’s actually fading us out.

Ultimately, though, you’re only delaying the heartbreak that is to come. You can’t force someone into liking you back no matter how hard you try. In the end. it’s better to know the truth about where you stand, so that you can make a clean break and move on to someone new.

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So, if you have even the vaguest sense that the object of your affection is not reciprocating your feelings same feelings, here are the top 5 signs that you should consider in response to the question: Is he into me?

FYI: It’s best to look at all of these in context and not just one thing.


1. He regularly flakes on plans

This one is a no-brainer. If you make plans together and he regularly finds a way to get out of them or cancels at the last minute, consider it a sign he’s not into you. Guys who are interested find the time to get to know you better – even if it’s just for a cup of coffee.

2. He keeps saying, “We’re just friends”

When things seem to heat up, does he regularly remind you of your friendship status? When you have hinted at trying to be more, does he redirect the conversation back to the friend-zone? If the answer is yes, consider it a strong sign he isn’t into you.

3. Avoids any physical contact

If a man is interested in you (romantically or physically) you will know it. If the guy you like goes out of his way to avoid physical contact, it’s a surefire sign he’s not interested. Handshakes and hugs don’t count. Instead, we’re talking about intimate holding, caressing, and petting. If he’s not responsive to your attempts to be physical, don’t push it. He’s not interested.

4. Short, empty texts

When you send a text, does it take a while for him to respond?  When his message does pop on your phone, is it short and terse? Does he ask you questions or in some way try to interact? Think about this one carefully. If he’s not showing interest with you through texts, why would this dynamic change face to face?

5. He tells you he’s not interested

Sometimes, a guy will tell you directly he’s not interested. Should this happen to you, it is best to take him at his word. It may help to think of this (later on) as a gift. At least you know where he stands. This way, you aren’t wasting time trying to figure out if something might happen.