Oh. The 20s. One of the most inspiring, carefree, amazing periods in everybody’s life no matter their sexual orientation. We bet you have already come across many similar articles in men’s or women’s magazines, but what about us?
What about the gay community? In this article, we are here to provide you with 10 life tips to live life to the fullest during your twenties.
Sit back, grab a cup of coffee, take your notebook, and start reading!
1. Have Fun. Lots of It!
It’s your twenties we are talking about. You must have fun. Go to festivals, concerts, drink as much as you can, do all the things that you will regret later. Don’t overthink and do not try to mature earlier than you have to.
You will have time for work, career, money, some alone time later. The moment you turn 18 you have about ten years to do all the things that you will not be able to do when you actually settle down.
Be fun, fool, immature now that you actually have both the time and energy!
2. Yes. Have Lots of Sex Too!
Duh! Your libido is most likely higher than the Empire State. You look at a hot guy and you instantly think about having sex with him. People look at you and you flirt so much that, sometimes, you are even sick of yourself. Don’t be.
Go f*ck that guy! Why not? You are an adult so f*ck that guy! And the next day f*ck another one! Being sexually active is not a sin. Do not demonize it and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your libido!
3. Break Your Heart.
You will fall in love. So deep, so much, so unconditionally. And you will most likely break your heart so hard that you will feel like the end of the world is so near you can taste it. Allow this feeling to evolve. Embrace the emptiness and let yourself go deeper into sadness. It is your first heartbreak after all! The one of the many that are going to occur.
Later in the future, when you will have overcome this whole experience, you are going to think about it in a positive, bittersweet way. Break your heart now that you are young enough to mend it from scratch.
4. Don’t Be Afraid To Be Yourself.
When we are that young, we all tend to somehow copy people around us. In your twenties, you get so many different ideas and stimuli from many different people that altering your (Still forming) personality is not that difficult. However, you need to be honest with yourself and have the stamina to stay true to who you are.
Of course, you are going to change over time but your main corpus should remain true to what you feel. People will come and go and they will leave marks on your skin. Make sure these marks do not go too deep into you.
Be comfortable in your own skin and do not let others tell you how to act, walk, talk or live!
5. Don’t Be Afraid of HIV. Just Be Smart.
When you come out, some people are going to scare you. They will definitely bring HIV to the table because let’s be honest, many have associated the virus with the gay community. Don’t let them scare you.
Use condoms, learn more and more about preps, protection, and how you can secure yourself. It’s not the 80s anymore, guys! Please.
6 There Is No Such Thing as Too Gay!
People will try to let you down and tell you that a habit, or a move, or the way you interact with others might be “too loud,” “too girly,” “too gay.” Well, let me tell you something. There is no such thing as too gay. Nothing is “too gay” when you actually feel good with yourself.
People are programmed to judge, talk, criticize, and maybe be bad at each other, sometimes. Let them be. You don’t have to care about what they say. Come to terms with the fact that some people are not going to like you or that they might not feel comfortable with the fact that you are gay.
So what?. If you want to be “too loud,” “too extra,” or even “too gay,” do so! It’s your life. Don’t you ever forget!
7. The Media Propaganda is Just Propaganda
No. You don’t have to have a six-pack. No. You don’t have to be fashionable. No. You don’t have to like Britney Spears. The only thing you have to do is to be yourself. The stereotypes of the gay community are just stereotypes created by the media.
There are many gay people out there who do not feel like the “gay way of living” is the way they want to live their life. But let’s be honest. There is no such thing as the “gay way of living.”
Work out if you want to, listen to the kind of music that best appeals to you, go to bars that you actually like. The best way to live a great life is to live the life that you want.
8. Support LGBTQ+ Rights As Much As You Can
We have rights. And all the rights that we have today are the ones that LGBTQ people in the past fought for. We need to secure a better future for the next generations. You might not be into activism (and that’s totally ok), but this doesn’t mean that our community doesn’t need you.
You don’t have to be a hyperactive member of activist organizations but we guarantee that the first time that you will contribute to a greater cause, you will feel so much gratitude that you will want to do more. Just give it a try and, who knows? You might like it!
9. Make Friends!
In your twenties, we meet so many people that we, eventually, lose count. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but not all of them are going to be your friends! Honestly. As you start growing older, fewer and fewer people are going to stick with you.
But this doesn’t mean that you should not keep going out! Do that. Meet new people. Give them a couple of chances to enter your life and, who knows? You might find you next BFF who will be there for you in your thirties, forties, or even seventies!
And friends will always make you feel like 22!