Hacks for sexy-time when you are stressed out
It’s 2018 and, wow, a lot of folks think the world is really messed up. Our country is fundamentally divided. LGBTQ folks still feel the pain of discrimination. Kids are juuling. Landlines are going away.
The summer television shows are lacking in fun. It’s a stressful time in American history, and it’s critical we find healthy ways to cope.
Thankfully, there are lots of proven ways to decompress. Singing has been known to reduce stress hormones. Houseplants may help calm you down. Stepping away from the computer has also been shown to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.
And then there is gay sex.
The current body of research tells us that sex releases a ton of endorphins and other hormones that increase mood. It’s also a natural form of exercise, which when you think about it also is a stress-buster.
Still, trying to get into the mood can be challenging, particularly when you are being weighed down by the demands of daily life.
But, as the old axiom goes, “where there’s a will – there’s a way.” As such, here are a few ways to enhance your gay sexual experience when feeling stressed out.
1. Dial up the music
Investigators at McGill University have discovered that listening to music makes us feel good. In other words, they learned that music encourages the release of dopamine, also known as the “feel good chemical,” in our brains.
Combine that experience with intimacy, and double the dose. Hey, playing some tunes may also increase your performance as well!
Science tells us that listening to certain kinds of music increases body arousal, including heart rate, breathing rate, and skin conductance.
A separate study found that listening to music while getting your groove on can enhance rhythm and the overall sexual experience. So, play your favorite MP3s. Doing so may help to dial things up.
2. Breath mindfully
Yoga regulars may recognize the concept of pranayama; the formal process of controlling breath. It largely revolves around deep breathing, through the nostrils.
Many believe the process improves attention, increases energy, and decreases stress. Of course, it can also help you have sexy-time.
“Mindful breathing can help us achieve deeper and more powerful orgasms,” says sex coach Henry Jones in a previous interview with GPB.
According to Jones, mindful breathing helps to relax the prostate and connected muscles responsible for ejaculation.
He also reminds us that mindful breathing increases the production of nitric oxide, a molecule that encourages blood flow and lowers blood pressure.
That kind of helps if your goal is to pop wood and keep it during intimacy – don’t you think?
3. French kiss
A recent couples study involving 2,000 people found that couples who only kiss during sex were eight times more likely to report suffering from depression and stress than those who kiss more frequently.
“Kissing relieves stress by creating a sense of connectedness, which releases endorphins, the chemicals that counteract stress and depression,” writes Laura Berman, Ph.D., the author of the study.
Of course, that’s not the only function making out provides. Locking lips is arguably one of the best kinds of foreplay to engage in. And, as we all know, foreplay is critical as a buildup to release.
4. Consider scheduling it
In 2011, psychotherapist and self-help guru Robert Epstein explored the most effective ways to reduce stress. He surveyed over 3,000 people as part of his investigation.
Per his findings, the best method involves planning. “The most important way to manage stress is to prevent it from ever occurring,” he shared. “That means planning your day, your year and your life so that stress is minimized.”
Obviously, scheduling sexy-time takes out the spontaneity. But as the old saying goes, “A little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing!”
5. Get away from home
Traveling can be good for you sex life. Studies suggest that vacations improve mood, increase productivity, encourage healthier sleeping patterns, and alleviate stress.
Maybe that’s why getting away is linked to better intimacy. Scholars claim that vacays provide a moment for couples to partake in new and exciting bedroom adventures, which generally leads to an enhanced sexual desire, activity, and satisfaction.
When is the last time you took a gaycation?