Gay Dating Advice: 10 Tips To Attract Men Like a Magnet!

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Attract more men with these proven hacks

Have you ever noticed that some gay men are naturals are drawing others near? When you’re in their presence, do they give off a sexy, magnetic vibe that makes your intimate spots twitch?

Do you want to be that man?

If so, you wouldn’t be alone. Let’s face it, most of us want to be as attractive as possible. This is particularly true if our goal is to meet someone special.

While physical looks are certainly important, true man magnets have learned to strike the right balance between looks and charm.

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When properly combined, the duo act as a powerful aphrodisiac that overwhelm the senses and super charge the libido. Wouldn’t it be cool to get some of that? Well guess what, you’ve come to the right place.

What follows are 10 proven ways to become a man magnet to other gay men. The suggestions offered here are designed for dating but can be applied to other life areas as well. Read them all in order to full absorb their deeper context.

Let’s jump right in!

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1. Smile and laugh more

More than anything else, your approachability and attractiveness is dependent upon your body language. And that’s where smiling comes into play.

When you smile, you broadcast to others you are happy. And according to research, people are drawn to that – big time.


  • If you’re introverted, try practicing your smile in front of a mirror.
  • Laugh and giggle when you interact with others
  • Don’t take yourself so seriously

2. Ask fun questions

More than one scientific study has confirmed that asking boring questions on a date can be a real turn off. Why? Because they’re the standard boiler plate ones that are predictable.

Examples of rehearsed questions include asking about his employment, where he’s from, etc. To be a man magnet, avoid these like the plague.

Instead, reach for fun, thought provoking questions that dig deeper.


  • What’s your favorite movie?
  • Tell me about the music you listen to.
  • What are you passionate about?
  • Do you have any hobbies?

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3. Get some charm

If you want to reel the men in, you’re going to have to turn on the charm. But how can you do this when you can’t find the switch?

Here’s the straight forward truth – it requires work. That’s because truly charming people aren’t born that way.

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Instead, they’ve carefully studied others and mirrored desired behaviors. There’s even books on this stuff (see Amazon).

One great bit of advice is to use props. If you are a dog owner, it’s probably the most powerful tool in your charm arsenal.

Here’s why:

Studies confirm that men with dogs are perceived as more attractive and more charming than their canine free counterparts.

Don’t have a dog? That’s OK. Talk about something to do with animals or better yet, their pet. Gay pet owners love talking about their fur babies because for many of us, their defacto children.

4. Be a little mysterious

Many people confuse this point with being sinister. But the two constructs couldn’t be more different. To be mysterious means to not be an open book on every aspect of your life.

Several studies have confirmed that guys who channel a bit of mystery about themselves come off as magnetic. So how can you put out this vibe?


  • Don’t broadcast your whole life story when meeting someone
  • Deflect questions that get too personal too soon.
  • Maintain a calm exterior at all times

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5. Channel confidence

One of the things that makes another man sexy is his outward level of confidence. But don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. It’s usually the psychopaths and narcissists who exhibit the later.

Instead, your goal is to project an air of inner strength. And the best way to accomplish this is by focusing on your body language.

If you have a chance, check out this post on building confidence when dating for some quick tips.

For now, here’s some pointers:

  • Pay attention to posture
  • Shake hands firmly
  • Lean into the person when they speak

6. Make Eye Contact

For a lot of people, this one can be a struggle. After all, nobody wants to be the guy who “stares”. So how can you pull this off without seeming like a weirdo?

It’s pretty simple – focus on gazing at his eyes. You may have to practice this in order to master the technique.

Here’s some suggestions:

  • Focus on one eye and hold your gaze for 10 seconds
  • Break eye contact by nodding. Then, focus on the other eye.
  • Bring your attention to a nearby spot, like his nose or an eyebrow
  • Make sure your own eyes aren’t baggy and sagged and learn how to get rid of dark circles.

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7 .Use active listening

Magnetic men aren’t just mindless earpieces that nod their head up and down during conversation. Instead, they employ the skill of active listening.

But what does that term really mean?

In a nutshell, active listening is when you interact with the person to demonstrate you are truly paying attention. This involves body language, coupled with the art of the question.

Here’s some tips.

  • Tilt your head towards his direction when he speaks
  • Use reflective language: “It sounds like that was stressful.”
  • Ask thoughtful questions: “What options are you considering?”
  • Empathize: “I would be upset too. Sorry that happened.”

8. Get some facial hair

If you’re running around with a smooth face, you might want to consider growing a beard. That’s because recent research suggests that men with facial hair are perceived as sexier.

If you’re unsure what style to sport, consider something from our celebs with facial hair page.

And if you’ve already got some fur on your mug, why not change things up? Grow it longer or trim it shorter and if it’s starting to turn gray, touch it up with color.

Finally, on this point – we’re not saying having a smooth face is unattractive. But we are suggesting that having some amount of growth could amp up your sexiness factor.


9. Invest in your appearance

Sure, genetics has a lot to do with attractiveness. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do things to enhance what you’ve already got. And chances are, you’ve got more than you think!

If you’re in your 30’s, learn all you can about preventing lines and wrinkles. We’ve created a page that offers tips on this front so be sure to check it out! See our men in their 30’s skin care post.

If you’re 40 or over, we’ve created a special page that offers useful tips on becoming a sexy DILF.

And yes, physical activity, exercise and diet are important. Consider hiring a personal trainer or consulting with a nutritionist to help you with body goals.

Time and again, the published research tells us that guys who invest in their appearance on a consistent basis are perceived as younger, healthier and more attractive. See our page weight lifting and men for more info.

10. Use the right cologne

Our final tip relates to how you smell. One of the biggest mistakes men make when picking a cologne is choosing something because it’s popular or “in vogue”.

And let’s be real – some of those products are ridiculously expensive; like between $200 – $300! That’s just nuts!

Here’s the thing – you don’t need to spend lots of cash to achieve a crisp scent. A study appearing in Evolution and Human Behavior confirms that colognes with a woodsy, masculine vibe work best at activating pheromones.

What are pheromones? Well, they’re basically chemicals that get secreted in the brain which are stimulate sexual arousal.

So which colognes should you get? Here are some suggestions with price points that might surprise you!

  • Brute (Ultimate woodsy scent!) Check Amazon for pricing
  • Wood Rocky Mountain (Rugged and manly) See Amazon for cost
  • Michael Koors for Men (Has sandalwood in it). See Amazon

Last thought on colognes. The goal should be to have a hint of scent about you – like just a touch. Don’t overwhelm.

Summing It Up

It’s important to think of attractiveness through bifocal lenses – meaning what you look like and your personality.

If your goal is to draw people closer to you and increase your dating opportunities, we hope what’s been shared here is useful!