How To Have Amazing Gay Sex with a Large D

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Being large can sometimes be problematic

The old adage “be careful what you wish for” doesn’t usually apply to a guy’s manhood, but maybe it should. Though the anxiety attached to the idea of having a small penis is often unfounded, it is incredibly common.

Twelve years ago, a group of researchers set out to measure just how far this kind of penile paranoia extends. They studied more than 52,000 people.

While almost all partners reported they were satisfied with their significant others’ size, just about half of all men surveyed felt they were unhappy with what they had.

As with most things, fantasy often exceeds reality. As the investigators of the study concluded, “Men’s concerns about penis size are fueled by cultural messages equating penis size with masculinity.”

And, as almost anyone person who has ever bottomed can attest, internalized constructs concerning masculinity does not a good lover make.

The truth is, a large penis can actually complicate the ability of the bottom to enjoy “good” sex. Certain things are off the menu. Like the “jackhammering” approach.

The same holds true for oral delights, where the person going down on the thickish man can experience a sore jaw.

But where there’s a will, there is a way, right? Below are a few ways to have great gay sex when you have a larger than average manhood.

1. Foreplay is key

“Most men who bottom need 10 minutes of foreplay to be fully aroused,” explains LA based sex coach Henry Jones. That window allows the anus to go through a process called “anal tenting,” meaning it gets loser, wider and stretches.

And that makes taking a huge penis a whole lot easier to get inside.

Besides, more foreplay helps with the buildup of semen, allowing for a more powerful explosion. “I recommend warming up with fingers,” adds Jones, a certified sex coach. According to Jones, this approach is particularly useful for anyone with thick girth, which can stretch the anal walls beyond what’s comfortable.

2. Positioning is everything

If you are super-sized and haven’t tried sex while spooning, you probably should. “A long, thick penis may hit irritate anal lining, which doesn’t feel good,” says Jones.

“Spooning is a good option for this since it allows for shallower penetration.” Jones also suggests the guy-on-top, or “cowboy,” position. “Not only does the person being penetrated control the depth, it also pulls the pelvis of the person with a penis down a bit, making it feel like there’s less length to take in,” he explains.

See our guide on gay spooning to learn more.

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3. Get creative

Sometimes, being really big means having to get creative. “Just because adult film movies show it going all the way in, it doesn’t mean it has to,” says Jones.

“One option is to get him on his back with his butt close to the edge of the bed. Depending on where you are positioned, the bed can act as a kind of bumper.” During missionary, he suggests the bottom drops his knees down to the top’s chest. “That way, his legs can prevent how deep he can go.”

4. Look for alternatives

The following old saying is true: good sex does not begin and end with a man’s penis. If your largeness is causing her discomfort during anal, then look for other forms of fun.

“If you can stay hard after releasing, ask your man to get you off first using his hands or mouth,” says Jones.

“Your second woody is always going to be a little smaller.” There’s also mutual JO. “Lay side by side and touch yourselves. It’s extremely, intimate, and often faster than having intercourse,” he suggests.

5. Consider training

A final option is consider training your bottom to handle your largeness. According to Jones, “One of the best ways to do this is with a standard anal trainer kit”.

Anal trainers allow the bottom to graduate to different sizes over the course of time. “You start your man off small and then move on to super-size. It’s not an instant process so don’t expect results overnight,” says Jones. “The anal walls need to get used to being stretched out.”