Meet Gay Men: 10 Ideas That Don’t Involve Apps or Bars

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If you want to meet gay men and land a boyfriend, consider these ideas.

Tired of going on the gay dating apps? Not one to hang out at the bars? Feeling like the hook up apps are a dead end? If so, you wouldn’t be alone. Let’s be real – all of these can get real old, real fast.




But what are your options if you want to meet gay men? And how can you meet quality guys with specific interests and hobbies?

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Meet Gay Men for Dating

Here at Gay Pop Buzz, we support same sex relationships. And part of demonstrating that support means helping you step outside of your comfort zone so that you can make new connections.

That’s not to say we don’t like the apps or the bars. We’re just suggesting that in order to cast a wide net, it’s important to look at all options.

What follows are 10 ideas to meet gay men that might surprise you. Some tips may seem obvious. Others may make you pause and reflect. Read them all to help generate ideas.

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10 ideas for meeting gay men other than apps and bars

1. Meet Gay Men Who Are Funny

If having a sense of humor is an important quality you look for in a man, why not target your search to places where humor is abundant?

If you live near a big city, there’s a good chance that town has a comedy club. More and more, establishments have guest comedians who happen to be gay or lesbian – or at the very least LGBT friendly.

But even if there aren’t any LGBT entertainers performing, you are still likely to bump into gay people at these places. The idea is to broaden your horizons and focus in on what’s possible.

2. Meet Gay Men Who Are Creative

Are you into the artsy, creative type? Do you like connecting with gay men who paint, draw, sculpt or build? Do you gravitate towards guys who think in the abstract?

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There’s plenty of places to meet these kinds of men. You just have to know where to look. A good place to start your search is your local newspaper or community web portal.

Make a list of any art exhibits or expos you might see. Additionally, many charity events hold art auctions. It helps if the function you are attending is supportive of LGBT causes or is gay friendly.

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3. Meet Gay Men Who Are Career Focused

Do you dig suit and tie types of guys? Is there something about a man in a pair of dress shoes that frosts your cookies? Do career focused men make you twitch? If you are answering yes to these questions, you may have a thing for “business” type guys.

If that describes you, there are several options. The first is to check if any of the professional associations you belong to has a LGBT chapter. Many do! If that’s the case, why not join and make time for an event?

Second, a lot of cities now have gay professional networks. A good resource is the Out Professional Organization. If you’re not a member, why not consider joining?

4. Meet Spiritual Gay Men

Spirituality and religion are two different constructs. The difference is that religions tend to be organized. Spiritualism is more person based. And so if connecting with men who consider themselves spiritual is important to you, here are some options.

First, you can check to if your community has a LGBTQ affirming gathering place for spirituality. All belief systems are listed so spend some time looking around.

Second, you go to places where gay men who live spiritual lives gather. Examples include houses of meditation and yoga. Really any group that promotes the mind body connection is a safe bet. Search Craig’s List for smaller gatherings.

If you’re unsure of what you believe but know it’s some type of higher power, consider taking the belief assessment. It’s very insightful and may help you better understand yourself and the types of gay man you hope to connect with.

5. Meet Gay Men Who Are HIV+

If you are HIV+, it can be difficult to find men who also have a plus sign or who are HIV+ friendly. While a lot of that has changed in recent years with new medications – plus the advent of PREP, it still may be your preference to connect with other poz guys.

If that describes you, consider looking at your local LGBTQ community center for any poz focused events. Examples include charity drives and auctions.

As an aside, some of the best looking men you might ever imagine are HIV+. You can check out 10 of them here. Just food for thought if you’re HIV -.

6. Meet Gay Men Who Are Rugged

Do you like masculine, rugged gay men. Are you into guys who like the outdoors? Does a guy in a pair of jeans and a flannel shirt rock your world? Goodness knows we like these type of men around this blog!

If this describes you, why not consider a gay camping trip? They’re a total blast – plus, you might just meet a super cute otter, bear or wolf!

If you’ve never been on a gay camping trip, be sure to read our post on this topic. There’s plenty of resources to check for outdoor fun, including the gay outdoors website!

7. Meet Gay Men Who Are Bears

Do you identify as a gay bear? Into men who are on the hairy side? Like guys who hold shared interests? If so, there’s plenty of options for you.

While a lot of gay men hate labels, we don’t and here’s why. Labels, particularly within the LGBTQ spectrum, help to group people together by interest and cause.

And that’s particularly helpful when you are trying to meet a man of a certain type.

And so with that said, if you’re a bear looking to meet other bears, we highly encourage you to visit the Bear Underground website. You’ll find tons of gay men here who identify as bears that are eagerly looking to make new connections.

8. Meet Gay Men With a Military Background

Do you like a man in uniform? Did you serve in the US Armed forces and as a result, prefer guys who have lived the military life? Are you currently enlisted and want to make a gay military connection?

In the past, we shared our top 10 reasons why gay military men make the best boyfriends. It is our belief that these are some of the best types of men you can ever meet.

So where do you meet these highly desired men? Well, a great place to check is the military section of gay.com. They have lots of listings from all over the United States.

But you’ll also find them in towns with military bases. And with “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” a thing of the past, more and more of these men are out.

Finally, Facebook as a great group for military folks. See our gay Facebook groups for more information.

9. Meet Gay Men Who Are Sober

Do you have some sobriety time under your belt? Is it important you meet other gay men who have moved past the initial recovery stage are living a substance free life? If so, you aren’t alone.

So where can you meet like-minded men? A great place to check is your local recovery community to see what’s available. Outside of the 12-tradition meetings, there may exist event based options.

For example, in Chicago, The Rec Room offers visitors a place to connect to watch movies, attend art openings and play games. Clubs like this one are designed to help sober gay men come together, outside of the 12-step meetings.

Ask around your community to see what might be available.

10. Meet Politically Minded Gay Men

Do you care about politics? Is social justice something that’s near and dear to your heart? Are you attracted to men who are passionate about public policy, such as LGBTQ rights?

If you’re answering yes to these questions, consider joining your local ACLU chapter or an event hosted by GLAAD. More and more, metropolitan areas have city based LGBTQ political groups that are issue based.

Hop onto Google and check your local listings to see what’s possible. You might be surprised at what you find.

Meet Gay Men Final Thoughts

If you’re like a lot of single gay men, you deeply want to make a connection with someone in a meaningful way. Hopefully the ideas shared here will help generate ideas.

Remember, gay dating is a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there if you want something to happen.


By: John Hollywood